Agendas can be either Life Affirming or Ego Affirming
Life Affirming Agenda's are things like:
- Some form of education
- Dressing to the weather
- Being organised/ontime
- Self care - loving self, taking care of our needs
Ego Affirming Agenda's are:
All extracurricular activities... based on the outer.
Ego Affirming - Ego affirming way - sign our child up to something because it will make them or us 'look good'
Ego Affirming - Life affirming way - child wants to do the activity, we support and focus on process not outcome
Life Affirming - Ego affirming way - Homework -approach it from a fear/lack basis - go to school, need to get a job to support ourselves - switch it to explain why school and school work is important, the learning part of school, affirming the process, what they do, how hard they work - rather than outcome
Life Affirming - Life affirming way - toothbrushing - when, where and how its done is all flexible as long as its done